Garrison Institute Program: Care for Caregivers

The Garrison Institute has been offering programs in mindfulness and meditation for both laypersons and clinicians/ practitioners for years. It is a cornerstone of life in the beautiful Hudson Valley region of New York state. Now it has become a virtual sanctuary and is offering a video series of instructions for caregivers (and everyone) that are truly excellent!

Care for Caregivers: Skills for Resilience Through Meditation & Mindful Movement

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A Dedication to be used before Prayer or Readings for the Deceased

Here is a simple and short way to open a prayer session. Please see the full prayer/reading cycle as it could be offered in the Christian tradition at: http://www.thecaregiverwebsite.com/a-christian-readers-vigil/

Dedication

May the Results
Of This effort
Be for The benefit of
The present and future needs
Of All Beings Everywhere

Prayer of Unity
I am one in this body
I am one within this mind
I am one in these feelings
I am one within this self
I am one in this being
I am one within the laws
I am one in the Chamber
I am one to do this task

Reader’s Invocation
To be read before the prayer or reading 

I invoke the presence of
My highest possible
State of being
With full attention
Into this moment
As I begin
This Reading task.

It is my intention
To serve
In this small way
To assist the spirit…the soul… the Being
Who we knew as ________________

I acknowledge the impermanence
Of human life
And the suffering
That uncertainty
About what follows death
Brings to surviving family and friends

I acknowledge death
As the destination of all
Human bodies
Including my own
And the one
In which the being
We knew as _________________
Found a temporary home

I acknowledge Hope
as a gesture
offered to offset Loss and Grief
My hope is that the Being
We knew as ________________
moved beyond the body
And entered a larger world of spirit
and was welcomed home
May my reading
Find  __________________
No matter where they are
And
May it guide them as needed

May this invocation
Fortify my sincerity
Diminish my doubt and fear
May I find the strength to focus
In spite of uncertainty
About my role as a reader
And about what happens
to the being
Beyond the death of the body

I acknowledge Gratitude for
This opportunity
To serve
In this manner
In this time of sorrowful necessity
May God

And spiritual beings everywhere
Support my reading effort
By allowing me to work
In the light of Grace

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The Fundamental Buddhist Teachings of the Tibetan Book of the Dead

The Fundamental Teachings Summarized from W.Y. Evans-Wentz introduction Section XII of The Tibetan Book of the Dead

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“…we may now summarize the chief teachings upon which the whole of the Bardo Thodol is based as follows:

  1. That all possible conditions, or states, or realms of sangsaric existence, heavens, hells, and worlds, are entirely dependent upon phenomena, or, in other words, are naught but phenomena;
  2. That all phenomena are transitory, are illusionary, are unreal, and non-existent save in the sangsaric mind perceiving them;
  3. That in reality there are no such beings anywhere as gods, or demons, or spirits, or sentient creatures – all alike being phenomena dependent on cause;
  4. That this cause is a yearning or thirsting after sensation, after the unstable sangsaric existence;
  5. That so long as this cause is not overcome by Enlightenment death follows birth and birth death, unceasingly – even as the wise Socrates believed;
  6. That the after-death existence is but a continuation, under changed conditions, of the phenomena-born existence of the human world – both states being karmic;
  7. That the nature of the existence intervening between death and rebirth in this or any other world is determined by antecedent actions;
  8. That psychologically speaking, it is a prolonged dreamlike state, in what may be called the fourth dimension of space, filled with hallucinatory visions directly resultant from the mental-content of the percipient, happy and heaven-like, if the Karma be good, miserable and hell-like if the Karma be bad;
  9. That Enlightenment results from realizing the unreality of the sangsara of existence;
  10. That unless Enlightenment be won, rebirth in the human world, directly from the Bardo-world or from any other world or from any paradise or hell to which Karma has led, is inevitable;
  11. That such realizing is possible in the human world, or at the important moment of death in the human world, or during the whole of the after-death or Bardo-state, or in certain of the non-human realms;
  12. That training in yoga, i.e. in control of the thinking processes so as to be able to concentrate the mind in an effort to reach Right Knowledge, is essential;
  13. That such training can best be had under a human guru or teacher;
  14. That the Greatest of Gurus known to mankind in this cycle of time is Gautama the Buddha;
  15. That His Doctrine is not unique, but is the same Doctrine which has been proclaimed in the human world for the gaining of Salvation, for the Deliverance from the Circle of Rebirth and Death, for the Crossing of the Ocean of Sangsara, for the Realization of Nirvana, since immemorial time, by a long and illustrious Dynasty of Buddhas, who were Gautama’s predecessors;
  16. That lesser spiritually enlightened beings, Bodhisattvas and gurus, in this world or in other worlds, though still not freed from the Net of Illusion, can, nevertheless, bestow divine grace and power upon the skishya (i.e. the chela or disciple) who is less advanced upon the Path than themselves;
  17. That the Goal is and can only be Emancipation from Sangsara;
  18. That such Emancipation comes from the Realization of Nirvana;
  19. That nirvana is non-sangsaric, being beyond all paradises, heavens, hells, and worlds;
  20. That it is the Ending of Sorrow;
  21. That it is Reality. “


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Advice for the Moment of Death Tibetan Buddhism

This may well be the most important post I have ever shared. Very clear explanation of the Buddhist teachings which are relevant to our times. If you can listen to just the first 30 minutes you will get the gist of the teachings that we impart in our book Caregiver Revolution:

  • as much as possible maintain an undisturbed positive atmosphere at the deathbed
  • use the reminder that some day you will be dying to keep a positive compassionate mental framework while you’re alive and able to practice.

Finally, and most importantly, don’t stress. As caregivers we are often concerned that we have to do things perfectly, but we don’t have to! Just a little mindfulness, a tiny bit more relaxation about the situation, a touch of humor and we are on our way…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isceXZ8u87k&t=1345s

Thanks to friend Eugene G, Govinda for recommending this video!

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Some good Buddhist jokes

Right about now we all need a good laugh! Thanks to our friend Mark R for posting this…

These jokes about Buddhist monks and Buddhism are a pretty accurate reflection.

In fact, Buddhist jokes can help us have a better understanding about Buddhism. 

1. A Zen master told me, “Do the opposite of what I tell you.” So I didn’t.

2. Says the Master to his pupil: “Do you understand that you don’t really exist?”
Upon which the pupil replies: “To whom are you telling that?”

3. Prince Gautama, who had become Buddha, saw one of his followers meditating under a tree at the edge of the Ganges River. Upon inquiring why he was meditating, his follower stated he was attempting to become so enlightened he could cross the river unaided. Buddha gave him a few pennies and said: “Why don’t you seek passage with that boatman. It is much easier.”

4. Someone sent the Buddha a gift box tied with a ribbon. Buddha opened it to find it empty. “Aha!”, he said, “Just what I wanted. Nothing!”

5. What does a Buddhist comedian say when the audience stops laughing?
“I know you’re out there. I can concentrate on your breathing.”

6. A Western Buddhist woman was in India, studying with her teacher. She was riding with another woman friend in a rickshaw, when they were attacked by a man on the street. In the end, the attacker only succeeded in frightening the women, but the Buddhist woman was quite upset by the event and told her teacher. She asked him what she should have done: “what would have been the appropriate, Buddhist response?” The teacher said very simply, “You should have very mindfully and with great compassion whacked the attacker over the head with your umbrella.”

7. What did one Zen practitioner give to another for their birthday?
Nothing.

8. What did the Buddhist say to the pizza chef?
Make me one with everything. The pizza chef prepares it and gives it to the monk. The monk pays him and asks for the change. The pizza vendor says: “Change comes from within.”

9. How many Zen Buddhists does it take to screw in a light bulb? There is no light bulb.

10. Q: What happens when a Buddhist becomes totally absorbed with the computer he is working with?
A: He enters Nerdvana.

11. Why did the Buddhist coroner get fired?
He kept marking the cause of death as “birth.”

12. A Buddhist phones the monastery and asks the monk, “Can you come to do a blessing for my new house?”
The monk replies “Sorry, I’m busy.”
“What are you doing? Can I help?”
“I’m doing nothing.” replied the monk. “Doing nothing is a monk’s core business and you can’t help me with that.”
So the next day the Buddhist phones again, “Can you please come to my house for a blessing?”
“Sorry,” said the monk, “I’m busy.”
“What are you doing?”
“I’m doing nothing,” replied the monk.
“But that was what you were doing yesterday!” said the Buddhist.
“Correct”, replied the monk, “I’m not finished yet!”
~ Ajahn Brahm

13. A zen student asked his master: “Is it okay to use email?” “Yes”, replied the master, “but with no attachments.”

14. A student is on one side of a raging river. There are no bridges. He has no boat. He shouts out to the master on the opposite bank. “How do I get to the other side?” The master shouts back: “You are on the other side.”

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/11/14-buddhist-jokes-to-make-you-chuckle/

Resources:
Wisdom & Fun Quotes Collection
The Curious Diary of Mr. Jam
What Do you Think my Friend

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How Can You Go Back to Normal?

The YouTube talk below featuring the brilliant scholar and translator Robert Thurman is about The Teaching of Vimalakirti, text also available as a free ebook. Toward the beginning of this very extensive sutra, the Buddha has shared an experience of expanded consciousness with a large group of mendicants and laypersons who are gathered in a mango grove:

Thereupon the Lord touched the ground of this billion-world-galactic universe with his big toe, and suddenly it was transformed into a huge mass of precious jewels, a magnificent array of many hundreds of thousands of clusters of precious gems, until it resembled the universe of the Tathāgata Ratnavyūha, called Anantaguṇaratnavyūha. Everyone in the entire assembly was filled with wonder, each perceiving himself seated on a throne of jeweled lotuses. Then, the Buddha said to the venerable Śāriputra, “Śāriputra, do you see this splendor of the virtues of the buddhafield?” Śāriputra replied, “I see it, Lord! Here before me is a display of splendor such as I never before heard of or beheld!” The Buddha said, “Śāriputra, this buddhafield is always thus pure, but the Tathāgata makes it appear to be spoiled by many faults, in order to bring about the maturity of inferior living beings. For example, Śāriputra, the gods of the Trayastriṃśa heaven all take their food from a single precious vessel, yet the nectar which nourishes each one differs according to the differences The Te aching of Vim a l ak īrti 111 1 – Purification of the Buddh afield of the merits each has accumulated. Just so, Śāriputra, living beings born in the same buddha- field see the splendor of the virtues of the buddhafields of the Buddhas according to their own degrees of purity.” When this splendor of the beauty of the virtues of the buddhafield shone forth, eighty-four thousand beings conceived the spirit of unexcelled perfect enlightenment, and the five hundred Licchavi youths who had accompanied the young Licchavi Ratnākara all attained the conformative tolerance of ultimate birthlessness. Then, the Lord withdrew his miraculous power and at once the buddhafield was restored to its usual appearance. Then, both men and gods who subscribed to the disciple vehicle thought, “Alas! All constructed things are impermanent.” Thereby, thirty-two thousand living beings purified their immaculate, undistorted Dharma-eye in regard to all things.The eight thousand bhikṣus were liberated from their mental defilements, attaining the state of nongrasping. And the eighty-four thousand living beings who were devoted to the grandeur of the buddhafield, having understood that all things are by nature but magical creations, all conceived in their own minds the spirit of unexcelled, totally perfect enlightenment. p 110 http://84000.co/doc/vimalakirti/Vimalakirti%20Book_E_screen-170724.pdf

This is described as being a “dharma eye” experience – once seeing this you can never quite forget it, it will change your outlook. How can you go back to believing that things are, well, just ordinary? The entire talk is lively and interesting, but I found this question to be particularly intriguing so I thought I would share it.

Here is another excerpt, this from the introduction to the ebook by Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche: Like the frog that lives in a well and has no desire to see the world outside, we need the courage to step out of our tiny worlds to get the hang of these ideas. I am not suggesting you manufacture a kind of gullibility for yourself; thinking the unthinkable isn’t about gullibility, it’s about ‘immeasurable mind’. What we have to learn is how not to shun the unthinkable automatically, and to accept that the impossible is possible. But how? By learning that impossible and possible are equal; and that possible is as absurd as impossible. This section of the Vimalakīrti Sūtra is full of similar explanations that form a thorough study of the incredible, the unthinkable and the inconceivable – if I were to give it a title, it would be something like, ‘Explaining the Doings’, or ‘The Ins and Outs of Incredibility’. If you have the time, you should read it.

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