Why do readings for someone who is dead or dying? An examination of the time and timelessness that characterizes physical death.

Why do we do readings? What is it that we are trying to do? If at all, how are we helping?

It has taken me years to understand and formulate the basis of the practice of Labyrinth Reading but I have been getting hints recently, one of which came just the other day. In an online meeting with several people who are familiar with and/or had at some point experimented with the readings, the question was asked, “How can I actually help someone who is dead?”

Now this question is actually about 5 questions, (change which word is accented) and no answers were immediately forthcoming, but after some discussion a few minutes later one member of the group came up with this formulation:

“You have to look at your question to see the answer to it, for your question assumes much in it’s use of the word “dead.” If we reformulate the question to something like…”what can we do to help someone who is no longer living on this particular physical plane, or no longer possesses a physical body, then we are approaching a more accurate picture of reality.””

In the next several posts on this website we will be examining this question. I invite  your participation. We will look at: the stages of death, at what point can we say that someone is actually “dead,”  some scenarios imagined and resultant belief systems of different philosophies and religions surrounding this time. We might touch on physics, electrical fields, astral and causal bodies, and various during-life practices that may or may not affect one’s passage.

Below is a short mention of some Christian practices that will give us a nice start in examining this subject, the hours and days around the time of death.

Wikipedia tells us that: Among Church writers Tertullian († 230) is the first to mention prayers for the dead, not as a concession to natural sentiment, but as a duty: The widow who does not pray for her dead husband has as good as divorced him. This passage occurs in one of his later Montanist writings, dating from the beginning of the 3rd century. Subsequent writers similarly make incidental mention of the practice as prevalent, but not as unlawful or even disputed (until Arius challenged it towards the end of the 4th century). The most famous instance is Saint Augustine‘s prayer for his mother, Monica, at the end of the 9th book of his Confessions, written around 398.

And then we have the famous Ars Moriendi, the Art of Dying.

In the Christian world of medieval Europe, the Ars Moriendi, or “Art of Dying,” became hugely popular  around the time of the plague when death was rampant (14th and 15th centuries). The clergy had long used certain texts for their deathbed practices. When it became apparent that they would no longer be able to personally attend to the vast numbers of dying, their texts, their training manuals, were publicly issued. Soon they were widely used. These small texts generally consisted of a series of woodblock prints with instructions to be read by a family member or friend to the dying. The death bed was commonly believed to be surrounded by angels and demons. The instructions were clear – don’t avoid death, face it unafraid, defeat the evils of temptation which will certainly assail you, follow the way of Christ, and experience a good death.

The ars moriendi texts were widely read and produced by common people, for common people. Scholars have generally agreed that there are two ‘archetypal’ manuscripts from which the hundreds of variants that comprise the ars moriendi tradition in England are said to derive. The first of the two is a six-chapter work that explores the notion of an ‘artful death’ in great detail, whereas the second of the two is a briefer work that adapts and illustrates the longer treatise’s second chapter…this text nonetheless demonstrates the key point of the short version—namely, that maintaining stability in one’s faith in salvation in the face of death is the most important step to attaining salvation.http://soundideas.pugetsound.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1002&context=book_collecting_essays ) p.20

The Ars Moriendi teachings became incorporated into the modern Christian Liturgy. For example, the very popular 1855 English translation, Daily Hand-Book for Days of Rejoicing and of Sorrow drew directly from the Ars Moriendi Tradition.

The book contains four major sections: prayers and hymns for the healthy, the afflicted, the sick, and the dying. As the fourth section seeks “a calm, gentle, rational and blissful end,” it adapts core themes from the Ars Moriendi tradition: the dying must consider God’s judgment, forgive others and seek forgiveness, take leave of family and friends, commend themselves to God, and “resolve to die in Jesus Christ.” While demons no longer appear at the deathbed, the temptation to despair remains as the dying person’s sins present themselves to “frighten, condemn, and accuse.” The familiar remedy of contrition and forgiveness through Christ’s passion comforts the dying. Starck offers a rich compendium of “verses, texts and prayers” for bystanders to use in comforting the dying, and for the dying themselves. A confident, even joyful, approach to death dominates these prayers, as the dying person prays, “Lord Jesus, I die for thee, I live for thee, dead and living I am thine. Who dies thus, dies well.” (http://www.deathreference.com/A-Bi/Ars-Moriendi.html)

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What’s a Death Midwife? Inside the Alternative Death Care Movement by Jennifer Luxton

Excellent,  informative article – required reading!

What’s a Death Midwife? Inside the Alternative Death Care Movement by Jennifer Luxton — YES! Magazine.

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Bhutan’s dark secret to happiness

Bhutanese Monastery

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This is a wonderful  article with, surprisingly, quite a bit of material to contemplate. Why are we so out of touch with death in the west? Well, for a start, because we don’t take a moment to ever even think about it. Death is sequestered in the west. And once it comes out into the open (as in Bhutan) it is healthier, there is less fear, more joy, and even more possibilities in “dealing” with loss and death:

“Ritual provides a container for grief, and in Bhutan that container is large and communal. After someone dies, there’s a 49-day mourning period that involves elaborate, carefully orchestrated rituals. “It is better than any antidepressant,” Tshewang Dendup, a Bhutanese actor, told me. The Bhutanese might appear detached during this time. They are not. They are grieving through ritual.”

This is the Buddhist 49 day reading cycle that we allude to (and follow) with our reading practice in the Labyrinth Readers Society. We also have a facebook forum so you can follow what we are doing on a daily basis.

 

 

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Caregiver Revolution – 2 reviews

We just came across two reviews of our book and would like to make them available to visitors to our site.

From Hospice Care, reviewed by Roni Fuller: Caregiver Revolution: 5 Steps to Enlightened Caregiving

From New Perspectives, reviewed by Davida Katerine Maron: Correcting Oversight for End of Life Care

Enjoy!

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CAREGIVER TOOLS: Healing Assist Gemstone Jewelry Kits

You can make your own healing talismans for your professional or family caregiving work. Say what??

Whether  you are a care provider or not, take a quick look at the article below, It is a terrific post about healing in general and the beneficial properties of various gemstones. Required reading!

Healing Assist & Occult Powers Gemstone Jewelry Kits | Gorebaggs World.

 

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The Treasure of an Enlightened Woman

Boddhisattva

Wherever there is space, five elements pervade,
Wherever the five elements, the homes of living beings,
Wherever living beings, karma and defilements,
Wherever is defilement, my compassion also.
Wherever is the need of beings, there I am to help them.

This beautiful and inspiring verse is attributed to Yeshe Sogyal. When you research her life you will find fascinating stories and discussion. She is described as a terma or “hidden treasure,” an enlightened woman, an emanation of Vajrayogini and the consort of Padmasambhava.
Padmasambhava advised Yeshe Tsogyal that far from being a hindrance to enlightenment, as was generally accepted, a woman’s body is an asset: “The basis for realizing enlightenment is a human body. Male or female, there is no great difference. But if she develops the mind bent on enlightenment the woman’s body is better” (quoted by Stevens, 1990, p. 71). 
A very nice discussion of her life can be found at jnanasukha.org.
We are thankful for the verse above, received through Dokini from Just Dharma Quotes.

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