“What does it mean to hold space for someone else? It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.
Sometimes we find ourselves holding space for people while they hold space for others. In our situation, for example, Ann was holding space for us while we held space for Mom. Though I know nothing about her support system, I suspect that there are others holding space for Ann as she does this challenging and meaningful work. It’s virtually impossible to be a strong space holder unless we have others who will hold space for us. Even the strongest leaders, coaches, nurses, etc., need to know that there are some people with whom they can be vulnerable and weak without fear of being judged.” (from article below)
Holding space is what we can do for others without infringing our thoughts, beliefs and reactions on another’s situation…including their passing. Stay in the Clear Light. This is the Labyrinth Reader’s mindset. I have been waiting for this article, am incredibly thankful for it and am happy to share it with others: What it means to “hold space” for people, plus eight tips on how to do it well – Heather Plett.
From another article:
“Those are really the key elements of holding space. You’re not trying to influence the situation. You’re not trying to fix it, win at it, or affect any kind of outcome. You are simply being with it fully so that it can work itself out. This doesn’t mean becoming a victim to it. Quite the contrary actually, you’re very powerful in this space, and it certainly doesn’t mean being hurt physically by another. By when you’re deep into a space like this, you are far more immune to any “emotional” hurt than you might realize. So much of emotional hurt is just ego wounding. It’s taking what someone else is saying personally. But oddly enough, what most people say about us is just a reflection of themselves. It’s not personal. And while we don’t turn a blind eye to everything other people are saying, we really begin to understand just how much illusion everyone else is trapped in too.”
